I’ve shared with you before how much I enjoy the “God Wants You To Know” daily messages in which I subscribe. I’d say 95% of the time the messages are right on target for what I need on any particular day. For that reason, I don’t feel bad if it seems like I am promoting them. I don’t get any kickback, at least financially that is, I am wholly certain that I get karma kickback. Anyway, the message below resonated with me so much I felt like I had to share it with you.
I once had this IT developer on my team who wasn’t very good and his attitude was even worse. When I asked what he would love to do for a living if there were no barriers, he answered, a teacher. He then, went on for about ten minutes with his face aglow and speaking with more joy in his voice then I ever heard about how he loved learning and then passing it on to others and how he can make classes really fun, etc. However, he had a family of five to house and feed and teaching wouldn’t pay the bills. So he was going to school at night to learn how to be a java developer.
I cannot tell you how many people I meet are unhappy and yet in active pursuit of something that still will not make them happy. They are doing it because of parent expectations, society or cultural expectations or what they see as the fastest path to financial security which, of course will make them happier, right?
First of all, numerous studies have shown that once the basic needs are met, additional money does not make anyone much more happy. I will be the first to tell you, that I am anxious to experience some of those research findings myself. So if I hit the mega-million or power ball lottery you can be certain that I will tell you the truth.
Second of all, you are not living your life for your parents, they have their own journey to live. You don’t “owe” them to be something that is not in you. Keep in mind that most parents want their children to be happy and of course, most believe they know what will make their children happy but really now. How can anyone outside of yourself really know that answer?
Thirdly, if…if you are actually able to achieve what someone else wants you to achieve and it is not your passion, do you know what will happen then? There ARE options by the way. You will live out the rest of your life barely alive, somewhat complacent, maybe sad. Or, the regret will eat at you so deep that it will effect your physical health and you will become sick. Or, you will do what a whole lot of people do and simply (or though it is never simple) re-invent themselves.
I make it a point to purchase services from people who have a passion for what they do. And you know what? The joy they feel permeates the air around them. I always tip them more than I would normally and they all thrive in their businesses. It just makes sense doesn’t it? If you do what you love and do it with passion that you would thrive?
On this day of your life, Cheree, I believe God wants you to know…
…that happiness, that grand mistress of the ceremonies in the dance of life,
impels us through all its mazes and meandering, but leads none of us by
the same route.
Charles Caleb Colton said that, and he was right. Therefore, since there is no One Way to find happiness, why not find it the way that appeals most to you? Why not follow your passion — even if others tell you that you are crazy for trying it?
Is someone telling you that now? Don’t listen. Don’t listen to that! The voice of caution knows nothing of real joy. What joy is there is doing what there was no doubt you could do? Where’s the excitement in that? Hey, try something that you could fail at. Now that’s living.